Friday, October 30, 2009

Tubely is the Devil

After working at my computer doing mundane tasks for most of the afternoon, I received an email from a good friend. It was an invitation to be her friend on Tubely. Normally I don't click on those sort of things without doing at least a little research first. I had never heard of Tubely.com, but, I was tired, and my scam radar was down. She is such a good friend, and I would never want her to feel "reject"ed. I did the unspeakable - I clicked "yes"! Shocking, but none the less true!

They got me. The initial form required all sorts of personal data. I did the usual and left those areas blank. When they insisted these fields be completed before proceeding, I gave them fake data. When that didn't work (How do they know my phone number isn't 808-888-8888 and that I don't live on blank St.?? I could be that lucky. I really could!), my radar finally kicked in and I started looking for the chicken switch. I needed out of this line BEFORE the roller coaster took off!

The more I clicked, the deeper I plunged into the Tubely mayhem. I still don't know for sure what they are all about, but they certainly know how to program an infinity loop of chaos! I eventually found the escape hatch and canceled my account. Interestingly, it took at least twice as many steps to cancel as it did to sign up. I wasn't even sure I HAD signed up, since I never completely, or correctly filled out their stupid form.

Still dizzy from all the looping, I went back to my work. My inbox started filing up with Tubely invites - from myself, to myself. Apparently, somewhere along that journey the lovely dears at Tubely had hijacked my contact list. I use gmail, which like an elephant, never forgets a contact. Anyone I have ever emailed, or has emailed me, in the last 6 years got an email this afternoon asking if they wanted to be Wendy Minks friend on Tubely. Even the customer service dudes at Audible got that email.

I sure hope that no one was as blinded as I was and actually clicked "yes". Since I deleted my Tubely account, I am not sure what will happen if someone does, other than Tubely will undoubtedly ask for all of their deeply personal data and immediately start sending emails to all of their contacts.

Needless to say, I was most displeased. How totally embarrassing that every business contact for the last 6 years now thinks I want to be their friend on this stupid site. I wanted to send those jerks an email and let them know just what I thought of their business practices. The "contact us" tab took me to a reset password page. Apparently these geniuses think that the only reason anyone would want to contact them is to reset their password.

I found the email they sent me asking if I was sure that I wanted to delete my account for the umpteenth time, and hit reply. It probably goes into a giant spam folder, never to be seen by human eyes, but I sent it anyway. In that email I promised that I would tell all of my friends what I thought of their site, and encourage them not to sign up.


So .... I wrote this post, and I am telling all the world just what I think of Tubely. I hereby apologize to all of my contacts, everyone I ever emailed, or who ever emailed me, for letting the Devil, I mean Tubely, send you an email this afternoon. I sincerely hope that none of you liked me enough to go against your better judgment and click "yes", that you would be my friend. If you did, bless you for your kindness. If you are now in my shoes, feel free to pass this message on to your contact list. The madness has to stop somewhere!

NOTE: 11/1/2009 - If you are looking for the opt out button on Tubely, you won't find it. I was finally able to delete my account by going to the "help" tab, "FAQ's" and clicking on the "How do I delete my Tubely Account" link. They will then send you an email to confirm that you do indeed wish to cancel your account. Good Luck!

34 comments:

  1. Dear Wendy,

    How were you able to cancel the account? There is no "Cancel Account" option when I go to Account Settings. Help!

    -Jjk

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  2. It was tricky!! I should have paid attention and documented the circuitous path I took to final freedom. I think it was under the "help" tab - FAQ's. There was a FAQ "How do I delete my account?"

    Good luck, and sorry I caused you pain.

    Wendy

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  3. Hi Wendy,

    I found your site because my recently single mother was a victim of this scam. When I received the invite "from her" I emailed her to ask what this site was and she informed me she had been tricked.

    I'm pretty pissed too. I'm glad you made this post. While the site does not seem actively maliciously (not directly linked to malware) it is unscrupulous and predatory. I was not aware how bad exactly until you described the registration / cancellation process.

    I will also add that the email address my mother registered has been primarily used for business for the past ten years, so I am sure she is horrified and I am researching avenues of complaint against this site.

    On a side note, I would be flattered to be invited as your friend, you seem rather keen =)

    Cheers!

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  4. oh and I *love* your playlist!

    Oh L'Amour brings back memories, lol

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  5. Thank you very much for this information. Otherwise I would not have been able to cancel my account!! Thanks a lot. Cheers

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  6. Hi Wendy,
    I too received a Tubely invite from a friend I hadn't heard from in a couple of years. She was a love interest so you could imagine the excitement when I saw her email pop into my inbox.
    I looked around for information on Tubely before I clicked on anything and found your site.
    THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR POSTING THIS!!
    I'm sorry you had to go thru that mess, but I am grateful nonetheless.
    Sincerely,
    Anonymous

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  7. Hi Wendy,

    Thanks for this wonderful post, i was about to click on "yes" but hesitated in the last minute and decided to look it up!! YOU SAVED ME & my contact list

    Great Job!

    All the way from Jordan ;)

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  8. I just got hit by it last night. I received this similar "invitation" from my friend a month ago. Out of my general concern of e-mail scam, I simply deleted her e-mail at that time. Then I got another e-mail from her again last night with the body text: "[my name], don't you want to join my tubely group?" Out of guilt I replied to my friend while trying to register this tubely thing. But as I was going through the process (first they asked for my gmail account pwd, then I noticed that a laundry list of people whom I have ever contacted or who had ever contacted me show up.) It is at this point the alarm bell went off. I canceled the registration process immediately, but it was too late. The criminals had taken the opportunity to obtain all the contact information through my gmail usage history. (I do not know if this scam has the ability to do similar things in other e-mail systems.) I changed my gmail pwd immediately; I suspect that its requesting of my gmail pwd is to access my gmail account. I am positive that this type of action violates the federal law. I pray that someone catch the culprit soon.

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  9. You might want to add 'invitations to hi5.com' to your list. Last week I even received something that looked like from Facebook - one of my nieces supposedly sent me a picture of her, except it was not from her. I clicked on it and pretty soon after that my phone started to ring - some of friends asked me about my pictures I sent them, which I never did...
    Now that you have been warned.

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  10. Here's the link to remove a Tubely account:
    http://www.tubely.com/faq.php#How_do_I_delete_my_account_from_Tubely

    Thanks so much for directing me to it!

    Jeff
    www.MyPhotoGuides.com

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  11. Here's the link to remove a Tubely account

    http://www.tubely.com/faq.php#How_do_I_delete_my_account_from_Tubely

    Thanks so much for posting this article!

    Jeff
    www.MyPhotoGuides.com

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  12. I Googled Tubely scam and wound up here.

    If everyone would get in the habit of sending their mass mailings using Bcc ... Blind carbon copy, their list of addresses would never be seen by those who have their own agenda.

    Just passing this on, Dave Horne - The Netherlands

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  13. Thank you for posting your experience. I got a Tubely invite from a family member and something didn't seem right. I did a Google search and came upon your blog. You have saved me from a potential mess!

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  14. Received a "Tubely invite" from a friends email address but it just didn't seem right. Thank goodness my spam anntena was working, almost clicked yes but instead emailed her to find out what was up. Be interesting to get her reply in the morning. Researching it led to your blog. Thanks for spreading the warning. Sadly one of the anti virus sites said it was ok.

    I have to ask...did you read "The 4hr Work Week....Join the New Rich" before or after moving to Hawaii? :) I hope to move there someday but probably to the Big Island, too expensive everywhere else, even by So Cal standards. Great plumaria pic.

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  15. I'm so happy to have helped! Thanks for leaving your comments. It is so nice to know that someone other than my mother is reading what I post :-).

    I read The 4hor Work Week after moving to Hawaii. It's a great book and I am still trying to find a way to make all that a reality for me.

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  16. My friend and I just got tricked over this past weekend. I thought I had quit the registration process in time but I had not as I already had "accepted" my friend. My sister called to ask if I had meant to send her this Tubely and I said "NO." I too was horrified that this mess has gone out to my professional email contact history as well as my social (i.e. ex-girlfriends!) as I have but one email address for everything.

    I sent out an email to my entire address book to warn them to disregard and delete any Tubely email I purportedly had sent them.

    Interestingly, one of my friends on my email address list replied to my legit mass email to delete the Tubely by stating that no Tubely had reached him from me. Maybe his spam filter blocked it.

    Wendy, I followed your instructions and delisted my email address but the damage was done:( Thanks for posting this blog subject and how to delist.

    Oh, and the feedback asks why I'm delisting so I told them of this mess. - David

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  17. Thanks Wendy for posting that: months later, and the other side of the world, it still pops up first on a google search for advice about Tubley.
    - J.

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  18. The whole Tubely scam is very likely an identity phishing operation. At the very least, it's a scheme to collect legitimate email addresses to resell to unscrupulous characters (likely for further phishing scams). I do not recommend going back to the site for anything, even to attempt to delete your account. You are merely confirming your email address as an active live user, and who knows what else they are downloading to your computer while you are on their site. A site as nefarious as this is not going to have a legitimate "unsubscribe" or "delete account" function.

    The only thing you can do is change your email password and inform you friends not to click on Tubely invitations.

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  19. Hello Everyone,

    There have been a lot of sites like this who have been doing things, which may not be outright illegal nevertheless annoying to say the least. May I introduce you to a book that gives some simple yet practical steps to safeguard your information assets and prevent falling into something more serious like identity theft? ‘SPAM 2 SCAM How 2 B e-SAFE’ (ISBN-10: 1440424616, ISBN-13: 978-1440424618) prepares readers to recognise patterns of fraud in many forms and thereby helps them not to fall victim to such schemes. It is available through most channels, including Barnes & Noble, Amazon, eCampus, etc. I trust this helps. Cheers.

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  20. Thanks for the warning about tubely. My friend invited me on her tubely account and before I accept her invitation, I want to make sure it is not a scam. Lots of good information on your page.
    Like to hear more about your calyco healing class.
    Thanks.

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  21. I got an invite from a very good friend of mine from "Tubely" so I went on the site and became suspicious when they wanted my home phone number. So I decided not to join, left it at that. Then my wife got an invite from me on there.... so I went back on the site, and apparently I'm now a member, can't find delete account... and I have a "friend" on there I've never even heard of....!!!

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  22. Pleased to know that I'm not the only one to fall for this....my invitation was from my Chinese acupuncture doctor who is the sweetest lady...so,yes, my whole address book!
    I just thought it was perhaps a Chinese equivalent of Facebook.
    I feel embarrassed and even humiliated and still uneasy even though I've changed my password.

    From England Feb 8th 2010

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  23. thanks for being the victim who stepped-up and admitted to falling into the scam. You have saved many from the grief and hassle of going through it. Nice web-site!!

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  24. Thanks for all your info/advice...i just fell for this...what a disaster! I was wondering if it just gets your address list or should I be worried that they got info from emails for identity theft, accounts, etc...any advice?

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  25. I had got tricked, but I bet they still have my email password after I quit there evil dumb scheme

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  26. I Fell for the same scam and spent a whole evening apologizing to over two hundred people on my emailing list. I'm still confused as to how they got their grubby paws on it. But, Im still getting people asking me what the hell Tubely is, so I have feeling the invites are being repeated. This is a nightmare and I'm scared to go back to the Tubely sight to look for a way out in case it starts all over again!!

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  27. Thank you for posting this and sorry you had to go through this. I will confess I sent a (slightly) withering email to the person I thought had invited me before checking what it was. Way to spread bad feeling through the internet tubely.

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  28. Thank you for your POST...You SAVED ME!! LOL!!

    Here is a PERFECT example that we can learn from others. ;)

    Hope you don't mind, I Linked your Blog on my FB Page to warn others...

    THANKS AGAIN!!

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  29. Happy to help and thanks for the link to spread the word!

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  30. Hi Wendy,

    I received a strange e-mail from a girl in my gmail acct asking me to be her friend - needless to say, I was suspicious, so I clicked on the site - it does look pretty harmless, kind of like facebook. But, I decided to google this site, and lo and behold, I found your site and comments! Luckily, it was from someone I didn't know at all, so that made it easy for me to get suspicious. I didn't click on anything other than someone's profile, so hopefully I won'r hear anything else. This same person e-mailed me AGAIN asking if I got her invite!!! Lots of guts, these scammers. Anyway, thanks for letting us know about this site.

    -Paul

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  31. Hi Wendy,

    I just got two e-mails from the same person asking me to be their friend. Since I didn't know this person, obviously I was suspicious as to how they got my gmail acct. I googled and found your site, thanks for spreading the word!!

    -Paul

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  32. Good evening, Wendy: How are you tonight? Thanks for sharing your TUBELY-TALE!

    I received "an invite"(from someone I know), too. I GOOGLED "Tubely" first, though(that's how I chanced upon *your* Blog). Such practices *are* EVIL, I tell you!

    Now, how 'bout those MSN WindowsLive/Hotmail, "friend invitation"s from guys who turn out to have chick-names and chicks who also have guy-names, claiming to be "dying to show off their sexy new undies" suggesting you check-out their "pics" at the blah-blah-whatever-dot-com site...! How do such eMails even get through major big-name sites like Hotmail or Facebook in the first place? {Rhetorical question, lol}

    'Wish I had more tyme to spend here at your(what looks to be) a lovely BlogSite. I also wish I had the luxuries of tyme & money to rack-up *my* Reading List(as I see you have -- nice!).

    Be well,
    ~=Demi

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  33. thanks Wendy! I just got one today!

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  34. Thank you for this post, I was caught out a few days ago, received an e-mail supposedly from a close cousin, "I want you to be my friend". I responded, filled out the forms and next thing I knew all my contact list were suddenly "my friend(s)", including govermnet departments!Tubely then put me directly onto a dating service!

    I was suspicious and managed to navigate the site and unsubscribe from Tubely.

    I then got an e-mail from my son who told me I had been hacked and other e-mails from near and far saying ???

    I sent out an urgent spam warning to ALL my contact list, I think that has been the end of the matter.

    Can anyone out there get these pests put out of business.

    GM Sydney

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